We’ve reached an anniversary!

…of not posting.  Sorry folks. We are still going strong. Be back soon!

 

Testing For STI’s

As responsible swingers Blink and I get tested for STI’s (Sexually Transmitted Infections) approximately every 6 months. Since this is a regular piece of our lives now we thought that we’d make a public service announcement to other swingers as a reminder. And to those of you who are thinking about swinging, please keep in mind that testing is not only a health conscious decision for you, but also for those that you play with.

Having recreational sex means that we are willingly taking a risk with our health, but it’s no more of a risk than getting in the car every day and driving down the road. The precautionary measures that we take when driving are to make sure that we aren’t over tired, aren’t drunk, know the rules of the road, and drive as defensively as possible. As swingers we need to make sure that we are having sex the safest way possible. Having the guys wear condoms at all times is a big first step. Wearing a dental dam is another method of protection. Not one that I care to use, and to this day haven’t seen one used, but they are available for people that have a concern.

Getting tested often enables you to be able to treat infections early if they are contracted, and helps you to ensure that you are not arbitrarily out there infecting others. The tests are simple and the appointments are short. Take the time and get tested. Believe me, it will ease your mind.

For a comprehensive list of STI’s to test for please click HERE.

Sinful Sunday

Fuck or Make Love?

I had a playmate asked me this in advance once and it got me to thinking about what I really do like.  It isn’t so much that I hadn’t thought about it before, but I certainly hadn’t put it in those words. Over the first few months of swinging different situations happened that helped to mold what Blink and I like and don’t like about playtime with others. What’s the difference making love and fucking? It’s the difference between a hard/fast and soft/slow or sensual playtime. I prefer the slow/sensual love making, but do think that there is a time and place for hard fucking. What determines if I like to have sex (repeatedly) with a particular guy is whether or not he leans more towards one or the other. Those that rely on the hard/fast fucking for the majority of playtime may not get repeat action with me because it’s not fun and doesn’t get me wet.

Based on online profiles or things that people have said to me while we are out socializing with other swingers, I’ve come to realize that some couples believe that the soft and sensual should be reserved for their spouse only. I’ve come to realize that the number one thing a guy can do to even get me thinking about having sex with him is to show interest in me. Yep, that’s right! Good old fashioned flirting. And when a guy is sensual during playtime that also shows me that there is an interest – that I turn him on. I want to know that he sees me as more then a means to an orgasmic end.

One of the things that Blink enjoys about sex is finding out what buttons to push that make the one he’s with squirm in ecstasy. I love that! I love when the guy takes an interest in my pleasure, and to me, that’s what is fun about sex. I love to touch, feel, hold, kiss, and find out what makes my sex partner rocket to the moon and stars beyond.

If you are someone that simply enjoys that hard and fast fucking every time you have sex, I’d love to hear why that’s an attraction for you. And there is no judgement here. Everyone likes what they like – that’s what makes us all unique in our own  way. If we were all the same, what a boring world this would be 🙂

Mercy’s Swinger Resolutions for 2013

Traditionally, resolutions are hated by most and given up on before the month of January is even over. For the most part, I hadn’t even really thought of resolutions until a few days before 2012 official ended because it has been such a great year! How could the following year be better?

My typical resolutions have amounted to goals that were almost, and in many cases, unreachable. Which, in turn, caused me to start and end the year with disappointment not having accomplished the goals that I set for myself. My swinger resolutions will be different. I have read a few resolution lists from fellow bloggers to try and get an idea of how I can improve upon the greatness of this last year, and after some discussion with Blink, I have decided to focus on improving communication with Blink and with others that I meet in the lifestyle. If you’ve read our Nitty Gritty post, you’ll see that communication was the main theme of how we got through this last year. Communication has always been a problem in our relationship for one reason or another, but this last year we’ve worked on it more than ever – we’ve had to because we spend way more time together than we ever had in the past.

Because I like manageable lists below is my list of five resolutions for 2013:

1. Increase communication with Blink and friends.
2. Have more sex than I did in 2012, which should be easy since we started swinging half way through the year.
3. Dance almost naked on my birthday (sub goal to this is lose 40 pounds by October).
4. Meet more black couples in the lifestyle (Not prejudice, but have found that I love to fuck black guys!).
5. Finally experience a DP!

What do you think? Doable? If you blog and have come up with some swinger resolutions I’d love to read them.  Please leave a comment with your blog link.

Happy Reading!